Much like life, yoga comes with the good and the bad, and if you stick around long enough, perhaps the opportunity to feel them as one and the same.
It will all work out as it’s supposed to. So, just let it play out. If you feel overwhelmed, step back for a bit to take your mind off of it. If you’re in too deep, it can become too clouded to see clearly. Come up for air. You need it to survive. Whatever you’re facing will be there when you’re ready to get back to it. If it isn’t, don’t fret, it wasn’t meant for you, and there’s something even greater out there for you. Keep moving.
Anonymous asked: I'm not a poly person, sorry I don't kno the right word, but I'm having problems with my own love triangle, right now. How did you get over yours cuz you seem like it and, what happened?
hmm well my situation went beyond love triangle and was more of a love clusterfuck — because it involved the person i loved actually being in a relationship with someone else, complaining about their S/O to me, saying they were going to break up with their S/O, & then not doing it, but continuing to sleep with me on the DL for over a year. my therapist called it intermittent reinforcement (i.e. i was *sometimes* getting what i wanted, but not always, which is strangely more effective in getting you hooked on something/someone than if you’re constantly getting what you want). it made me miserable having to play second fiddle AND hide the relationship. it was super invalidating of, like, my existence as a person & as a partner. i was super depressed & stressed out the whole time it was going on.
i think polyamory is awesome because it is based in honesty & communication — as opposed to cheating, which creates crazy webs of lies & guilt & totally destroys everyone involved. i think if you love two people & they’re chill with it, you should be allowed to be with them both! as long as everything is consensual between all parties.
as to how i got over it, well…i wouldn’t say i’m 100% over it. i’m still sad. if you love somebody & then suddenly they’re not in your life anymore, you’re going to be sad, there’s no way around it. it’s a little bit less constantly on my mind now cause i don’t really talk to or see the person anymore. ending it was the morally ‘right’ thing to do i guess, and the healthiest thing for me, so i try to remember that when i’m feeling nostalgic…also i do a lot of yoga & i’m generally trying to focus on my own life & well-being.
good luck friend~